I watched Don Juan Demarco again this weekend and was reminded of a few things. (Now imagine my speaking in my best spanish accent for the next part)
1. Beauty is something that can be seen at any time, but not because it has to do with the shape of your body or color of your skin. It is something that inside of our souls. God put it there, and we can erode at it, or nurture it to grow, but we can’t destroy it or steal it. To see it you really have to look hard. And not in the looking for a long time kind of hard, more like you stare deeply into what someone says verbally, as well as what they say with their body movements. Also, you have to try to look inside their eyes, that is key.
2. Women contain a fragile sort of beauty. Not because they are weak, or less than a man, or anything silly like that. Instead it is fragile like a something dear to our hearts that we cherish and protect. And only the one who cherishes and protects it really understands its true beauty and sees it for what it actually is.
3. Love is important. Even at the cost of reality. People who don’t believe in God that I talk to will hear me say this: Currently my life is better than it was several years ago, because I try harder now to really love people. This is true if I made up a God to facilitate this change, or if he is real. If more people tried to Love others it could improve the whole world. I believe this is because God designed things that way, but I also believe w/o Christianity or God or whatever, this idea has merit. Yes, I know that is not an original thought, and a subjective observation, but no matter how I think about it, this idea seems much closer to the truth than all the others I’ve heard.
4. When you can truly see the beauty in a woman, and she sees the beauty in you, that is magical. I don’t know why, but it just is. And the physical expression of that mutual realization needs to be just that; Mutual expression. If you go through your sex life just trying to get your gun off your missing a lot of really great stuff.
5. If you spend time trying to reach out and touch that beauty inside the other person in a time of great physical intimacy you can achieve a greater level of intimacy than you think is really possible. I don’t understand it, but sometimes when I am really into my wife because she is amazing and wonderful and beautiful, (not just a place to get sex) I can feel something completely different than other times. You have to look for it to see it, otherwise the moment might pass you by.
If you are the least bit of a romantic you should watch Don Juan DeMarco, it is a great movie. I highly recommend it.